It may seem like the End, but trust me it's not!
You may think this is a new Beginning, but again, it is not!
Everyone experiences a rush of emotions around the holidays, especially at New Years Eve. People love to gather together and celebrate the last night of the year. Those last couple hours of the 31st of December are filled with drinking massive amounts of excitement for what is to come and eating a lot of hopeful resolutions until each one of us goes into a happy-high comma as the clock strikes twelve. Something magical happens as the number of the calendar year increases yet again by one. Everyone is waiting for that magic moment: that moment when our life will change for the better. Year after year, we all wait for that magic. Most of us do not believe in magic anymore, yet somehow secretly we still wait for it. For a very small percentage of people, that magic manifests a boost of energy that lasts well into the second month of the year. For an even more minuscule percentage of people, that positive action force lasts almost for an entire year. It’s a vicious ritual that repeats itself in hopes that a new formula or guaranteed process or even a convoluted elixir will finally bring forth the magic that we all need in our lives.
Let me give you the bad news first: that magic doesn’t exist.
Now, before you stop reading this “wanna-be” motivational post, let me give you the good news: that, magic does exist!
The most magical thing in the world is the magic of this moment. The magic is constant. The tricky part is that we, as humans, are inconstant.
I came up with 5 mind shifts and actions you can start implementing and doing right now to start living the most magical moment that will bring you lasting happiness.
1. Start believing that there is no such thing as the end. It is not the end of the world. Think about the worst thing that can happen and appreciate that no matter how bad your current situation is, there is still something much worse out there. The expression about the fact that "there's light at the end of the tunnel" is a little misleading. There is no end or front to the tunnel to start with. There is light at both "ends" or both entries of it. It is all about your perspective. Change the way you look at things and they will change. Keep in mind that quote “It is not over until the fat lady sings” and think about how there is always a fatter lady waiting her turn to sing.
2. There is no beginning, only progress. Think about this: you did not start living when you were born. You started this life way before that, about 40 months in most cases. You can start new things everyday, but you have a lifetime of experience backing you up and helping you achieve your new goals. The laws of physics always say that the amount of energy that is needed to start something is always higher than to keep that something in motion. The universe gave you that start-up energy as a gift and whatever you choose to do next will flow much more easily.
3. Get out and explore the world. Magic flows faster in open spaces and we will experience it better by going out of the comfort of our homes and often of our own cities, or even our own country. Here are ten of my favorite proverbs and quotes that I hope will inspire you to make a conscious decision to travel more.
“He who lives sees much. He who travels sees more.” – Arab proverb
“Travel broadens the mind.” – Italian proverb
“Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.” – Dalai Lama
“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.” – St. Augustine
“Not all those who wonder are lost.” – J.R.R. Tolkien
“Traveling tends to magnify all human emotion.” – Peter Hoeg
“Life is a daring adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
“We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us.” – Unknown
“Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.” – Unknown
4. LOL. Laugh out loud DAILY! I’m sure you have heard by now that laughter is the best medicine. There have been multiple studies showing the many benefits of laughing on the overall health and wellbeing of people. You really don’t need to be a scientist or a genius to conclude that laughter and being happy will make you feel good. The sad part is that it is so obvious that people sometimes take it for granted, or worse, we forget all about it. There is so much to laugh about all around us and we just have to look for it. How do you think your day will change if you actively seek out those funny cat videos on YouTube, turn up the late night comedy-infused news shows, or just let it rip when your partner puts the keys in the fridge and milk in the pantry? The best part is laughing at yourself from time to time. I’m sure you can remember that time you tripped over yourself or the time you walked into a light pole while trying to read your iPhone. And, if you still have any doubts of how to incorporate this into your daily life, take a laughter yoga class (yes, they do exist).
5. Find out your purpose and identify your dream life. Once you know your desired outcome in life and what you are meant to do, you can start living each moment with it in the forefront of your mind. People set yearly resolutions with good intentions, but are often too lazy to do the hard part before announcing to themselves and the world their dramatic endeavor. Resolutions are the stepsisters of goals, who are too shallow and weak to be taken seriously for too long. I suppose it is a step up to start having a new year’s resolution if you have not planed out any S.M.A.R.T goals for yourself. Who would you rather be and more importantly, where do you want to end up? Let go of things that do not work and concentrate on the things that prove to be most productive and worthwhile. Stop creating long lists of things to do and follow Tony Robbins' goal setting system OPA (Outcome, Purpose, Action). This is a great way of experiencing magic in this moment, in your everyday. Resist creating meaningless boring lists and start with your desired outcome first. Think of what you want to achieve and what is your dream life. Then, think about finding the reason why it is that you want that. What is your purpose on this earth in this short breath of time? You can end your deep reflection by creatively thinking of actions that will support both your outcome and your purpose.
When you follow these suggestions, in any order, and even in the slightest way, it will appear as though magic finally has arrived in your life. You will consciously continue to see and follow your dream life happily every moment, for you already have this magic.
I hope you think about this when the clock strikes midnight. Better yet, I hope you read this again once you sobered up from the New Year's craze.
May Every year be a Happy New Year!
With all my heart,